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Children's Nursery Places - MH (16th Mar 2015 - 17:10:45) Dear all Very recently moved to the village, two young children and wanted to find out if there are any nurseries that can take a 16 month old on a full time basis? I have looked online, but can't seem to find any in the village and would rather not have to drive out to Liss or Haslemere, thanks

Re: Children's Nursery Places - sarah-jane (16th Mar 2015 - 17:18:03) Unfortunately there are no full time day care nurseries in Liphook. The only nurseries are the pre-school type which are open 9-3 and are from 2 years. For day care you will need to travel to Haslemere, Petersfield, Godalming, Bordon etc or consider a childminder or nanny.

Re: Children's Nursery Places - Jacqui (16th Mar 2015 - 18:39:37) Welcome to Liphook, I can recommend Greatham village nursery. They take children from 6 months and run from 8 to 6 five days a week. Mrs Chiverton also runs mad hatters in the village, both my children went there and were very happy. They both nursery are loving and well ran.

Re: Children's Nursery Places - MH (16th Mar 2015 - 22:31:13) Thank you for your comments

Re: Children's Nursery Places - wendy (17th Mar 2015 - 10:39:27) I know I'm old fashioned, but it does seem such a shame to me, that children have to be farmed out as early as 6 months old, mum's miss out on such a lot when they don't see their children developing from day to day.

Re: Children's Nursery Places - Steve (17th Mar 2015 - 15:08:06) Wendy, there are many reasons people send their children to nursery school, most are probably financial, but it is also about getting your child to socialise with others outside of the home environment and help their development. Calling what for many parents is a necessity "farming out" is offensive to everyone who has to make this choice.

Re: Children's Nursery Places - Kate (17th Mar 2015 - 15:57:03) Wendy - An ill thought contribution to this post. You know nothing of the persons situation. Unfortunately a lot of parents, both couples and singles, have no alternative but to organise childcare. This could be out of financial necessity or other reasons and for many being a working parent is not an optional choice.

Re: Children's Nursery Places - Rob (17th Mar 2015 - 20:00:43) Nice one Wendy - keeping up with modern life superbly.

Re: Children's Nursery Places - wendy (18th Mar 2015 - 11:24:41) I was just stating an opinion, I know people's circumstances sometimes warrant farming children out, and it's a sad fact that mother's do miss a lot of their children's development. When I was raising my four children the world was a different place, husband's worked, mother's stayed at home, it was that simple and it worked. I realise that these days, women are not content to just be a wife and mother,and as I said in my first mail, I'm old fashioned, and glad to be so.

Re: Children's Nursery Places - Carrot23 (18th Mar 2015 - 11:52:59) I cannot believe Wendy is being attacked for having a good old fashioned opinion. She is not attacking working mums, merely voicing her concern that some mums have to miss out on their children's developmental milestones because they have to, or choose to work. I do not believe that she was in any way seeking to upset anybody who makes this choice. What is a real shame is that some people make unfair and ill informed personal judgements as to what others thinks just because they disagree with their opinion. Everybody's entitled to them!

Re: Children's Nursery Places - Mrs (18th Mar 2015 - 12:43:20) Dear Wendy, I would love to be a stay at home Mum, I would love to clean, cook and make sure my husband has a home cooked meal ready on the table as he comes through the door. I DO all off the above and work part time, I have to make sure my children can afford to go to University and not come out the other side with massive debts. Also I have to pay into a pension so when I retire I can help my children buy a house. We as a family do not get any handouts, and what little we did get was taken away from us due to the government squeezing us dry. We work bloody hard for our money & our children will do to. We are off the age when we have to pay for the older generation good fortune .

Re: Children's Nursery Places - A working father with a working wife (18th Mar 2015 - 19:20:11) I think Wendy is incorrect to state that Mothers were are less content to just be wife and mother nowadays. The world has changed and for many it is not about being content or not content, it's about financial necessity. I also think Wendy's expression of children being "farmed out" is unpleasant and unnecessary and of course if she chooses to share this view on Talkback other users are free to condem and criticise her.

Re: Children's Nursery Places - EB (18th Mar 2015 - 19:38:51) Yes I love 'farming' my child out. Unfortunately not all our husbands earn massive salaries, not do we all have wealthy parents! It takes 2 salaries to pay a mortgage, have a car. We don't go on holiday. Perhaps we shouldn't have tried to buy our house with our hard warned money and rented, paying someone else's mortgage... But given what it costs to rent then that would be a waste of time! Our parents don't live nearby and have to work also. In an ideal world I'd work part time, but we can't afford it. Maybe we shouldn't have had a child... What do you think? (Slightly off the comment, but I like earning my own money, so when I can treat myself I pay for it and not someone else!) I hope my child grows up to know she can have a career, and children and maybe even buy a house, if she works really hard! And I hope she is proud of me for doing the best I could for her! Your generation was different, lucky you. Perhaps be a little more sensitive with your comments. Don't you think people don't know that they miss out on some of these things.

Re: Children's Nursery Places - Janet (18th Mar 2015 - 22:04:51) Good grief! Has nobody else ever heard of or used the term "farm out" before? It's a perfectly legitimate phrase to describe handing over the care of children to others. Extract from Collins English Dictionary: "Farm Out" Definitions verb (transitive, adverb) 1. to send (work) to be done by another person, firm, etc; subcontract 2. to put (a child, etc) into the care of a private individual; foster 3. to lease to another for a rent or fee the right to operate (a business for profit, land, etc) or the right to collect (taxes)

Re: Children's Nursery Places - Wow (19th Mar 2015 - 07:39:56) OMG Janet, I think you've just made it worse! (and no, I don't suppose you meant too, probably thought you were helping) You make it sound like working parents are putting their children into care... you know with foster carers... can't be bothered with them... etc.! Not the case, I know many working parents who would love to stay home with their kids. (Which would be fine if they didn't need food, clothes, homes.....) Oh and just because a phrase has been used since "the old days", doesn't make it 'right'. Try saying "excuse my French" when you swear (or 'if' - I know no good folk of Liphook would ;-) ) to a French person and see what reaction you get!! Oh and while I thinking of it and people are comparing the 'good old days' when mums stayed home with their kids, thinking about it, I grow up like that. You know when, kids played outside, nearly all day long (away from their parents) not coming home til it was tea time. Now working parents probably see more of their kids as kids don't play out so much now, stay home..... Food for thought... but what I'm really trying to say is that things change, move with it, some things for the better and some for the worse. At the end of the day ANY decent PARENT is doing the very best they can for their children and family with what they have at the time. It's a tough job and families struggle, they don't get told when they are doing a FAB job, just when someone thinks it's not 'right' (or to their personal view). Lets start some good old fashioned, friendly community spirit shall we? (I think that would be a nice thing to keep).

Re: Children's Nursery Places - Ian (19th Mar 2015 - 08:05:35) The issue here now is that this post started as a simple request by someone new into our village for some help and assistance. Wendy is of course entitled to her opinion but it really had no place on this post Opinions were not being sought about whether mums should stay at home or not but Wendy like so many other users of talkback made a decision to hijack a quite harmless request for community information to promote her own opinion. Completely unwarranted contribution to the original post

Re: Children's Nursery Places - w (19th Mar 2015 - 08:47:26) Well said Ian - quite agree with you.

Re: Children's Nursery Places - Susie (19th Mar 2015 - 13:10:40) I'll bring it back on topic and say that I 'farm out' my son to Greatham nursery. He has a great time there, the ladies that run it are all fab and they are open 50 weeks of the year. Couldn't recommend highly enough!

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